My Conversation with Thich Nhat Hanh

September 20, 2023

What?! You mean… compassion for others includes the woman lying and hurting the man I love? It includes compassion for her?

That’s easy for you to say.
You don’t have a wife or kids that you love like I love them.

What’s that you say?
That’s how you love EVERYTHING? All humans? All animals and sentient beings?

And if we’re being really honest you probably love them more purely because you don’t need anything from them in return?

So…. the compassion you felt for the man who killed the little girl’s father… right in front of her… for no reason other than he could…. And you held deep compassion for him…. You loved him like I love Gregg? Probably even more?

You loved the little girl like she was your own?
You loved the father like he was your own?
You loved the murderer like he was you?

You get that all humans suffer in their growth and that if you were them with their very same past, genetics and wiring you’d be exactly the same as them?

And you’d hope someone could hold compassion for you where you were at, so you could grow?

Sure, it’s not like you’re going to take this man in and have your wife and kids around him… you have powerful boundaries and intelligence that you use.

You just, hold compassion for him the way you’d like to be held compassion for.

Is this what Jesus meant by love thy neighbor as thy self?

So ya, what you’re saying is… she’s lying and being cruel and it’s my job to see that that is where she is at. I can want LOVE to win. Healing to happen. Peace to prevail…. without wanting vengeance or even justice.

It doesn’t make it ok, it doesn’t mean we have to maintain a relationship or pretend she’s not doing what she’s doing… it’s just that as I maintain my strong boundaries and truth telling, without fear… I also hold compassion in my heart and wish peace and happiness for her as I would for all beings.

All.
Without exception.

Consciously notice the behavior.
Acknowledge the intended harm.
Be powerful with boundaries.
Speak the truth without hesitation or fear.
Use my wisdom and intelligence for whatever situation is in front of me.
Hold compassion and wishes of peace and happiness for her.
Let God do the rest.

So this is what MAY LOVE WIN means.

It is not the same as let justice win.
It is not the same as let Mandy’s agenda win.
And it is certainly not the same as let vengeance win.

I see.
This is a tall order but I can feel my deep desire for ALL BEINGS TO BE HAPPY AND PEACEFUL! And this does include, of course, all who have done and do me wrong.

Somehow it all feels so small now.

Compassion. Got it.
Ty Thai.

Thank you for this whole conversation I got to have with you now that you’re flying in the ethers.

m xx


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