Saying Goodbye

THE 10 best things I’ve learned to heal my heart…

Today was straight-up heartbreak and a lot of love and support from friends.

Today I said goodbye to someone I love deeply.
And I did it out of love.
They were hurting, it wasn’t aligned and it’s the one thing that will cause me to show up really big.

LOVE.

I love these humans and don’t want them to hurt.
So we said goodbye.
And it was a beautiful goodbye and it hurt like hell.

I shook, almost puked, and cried.
Then I called some friends and got loved on so big.

So much wisdom I’ve learned over these last few months:

1. When a loving memory comes up and hurts, give it gratitude. Saturate yourself in gratitude for such an amazing memory. Think about how good it will feel to feel this again with someone new.

2. When a painful memory comes up feel the gratitude and how good it will feel with the next partner/human.

3. Allow yourself to feel everything. Don’t jump to someone new, don’t numb it, don’t run away from it. Just feel it. It will pass…

4. This is simply energy moving in the body. It doesn’t mean anything.

5. Remember there is always more love. Always. Love did not go away. A person did. There is more love than you’ll ever need.

6. Heartbreak is brutal, and it’s also extraordinarily healing if you let it be. It is simply your heart strengthening.

7. It’s not the time for you to be there for everyone else.
It’s time for them to be there for you. Stop trying to be strong for everyone.

8. Spend a lot of time in nature. Reading poetry, painting, singing, listening to music… a LOT of creativity will come in waves after the waves of pain.

9. Tell people. Don’t try to do it alone. Reach out to people and let them love you. It’s not the time to judge yourself for being a crappy friend/ daughter etc.

10. When you find yourself trying to figure out how to control it… stop and feel. Let the energy move through your body and flow. It is healing you as you do.

I feel deep pain but I also feel tremendous gratitude for such a beautiful experience in my life.
It hurts. It fkg hurts… but the pain will lessen a little bit each day.

I am grateful that I have built such authentic rapport with my humans that I can walk this out without needing to pretend I’m ok when I’m not.

And for the friendships, I have where they show up for me when I need them the most, no
conditions.

m xx