love Archives - Mandy Perry

We don’t over-give to make peace

Jul 24, 2025 | Relationships

We accept when someone chooses not to engage in a healthy dynamic and allow them to carry on with their journey.

We don’t chase, beg, or explain ourselves into exhaustion.
We don’t trade truth for approval.
We don’t revert to versions of ourselves we’ve outgrown just to avoid conflict.

We don’t make ourselves smaller, softer, quieter just so someone else doesn’t have to face themselves.

We stop over-giving to earn safety.
We stop overexplaining to avoid being misunderstood.
We stop managing the energy in the room to keep people calm.

…Instead…

We let the truth be disruptive if it must be.
We honor our “no” without guilt or justification.
We hold our center when others lose theirs.

We choose dignity over forced harmony.
We choose energy integrity over compulsive fixing.
We choose soul alignment over fake relationship.

We speak clearly.
We move honestly.
We trust what falls away.

We let go of what only stays if we over-give to hold it.
We let people misunderstand us.
We stop participating in what drains us.
We grieve the illusion that it could all be any different.

We bless the lesson.
We rise anyway.

Because there is no true peace where there is self-betrayal.

And we are no longer available for anything less than JOYFUL ALIGNMENT.

Outgrowing the habit of rescuing others

Jul 10, 2025 | Relationships

We…
are not meant…
to carry others…
through storms…
they’re creating…
and refusing to leave.

…

It sounds so simple when we sit in peace and acknowledge that…
But the pain of seeing those we love suffer can be intense.

And when we begin to heal from the rescuing habit… we go into WITHDRAWAL from false power.
From false control.
From over-efforting.
From trying to get ahead of the pain.
From reading other’s stress before they even speak it.
From the restlessness that lingers with injustice…

We go into literal withdrawal from the illusion that we ever had the power to control it all.

And we begin to recognize…
We aren’t tired because we’re failing to rescue them…
We’re tired because the identity we have built to survive is burning away.

It is dying.
And our work is to let it.

Let the pain burn off every illusion.
Let the ache break you open to allow the light in to reveal deeper and greater truths… as you become who you were always going to be.

Because the pain isn’t because of what’s happening… the pain is a response to a lie we have bought into. The pain is a response to a belief that is not in alignment with our highest self. (We KNEW that… we just forgot… again lol)

Our work is to REMEMBER:
When the rescuing stops,
when the performing ends,
when you’re no longer holding it all…
what’s still here?

What remains when:
You are not interpreting their pain.
You are not trying to be a certain frequency.
You are not being spiritual or soft or strong or wise.
What’s here when you are not trying to be anything at all?

Not the healer.
Not the partner.
Not the awakened one.
Not the one who sees clearly.

Just this.
Just the breath.
Just the you, being.
Just true reality.

I don’t second-guess myself

Jun 3, 2025 | Abundance mindset

I don’t negotiate with what I already know…

I don’t do confusion.
If it’s not clear, it’s a no.
If it doesn’t feel safe, I step back.
If I have to fight to be understood, I’m in the wrong place.
I don’t explain my truth to people who keep showing they can’t hold it.
I don’t wait around for potential.
I don’t accept crumbs from anyone… emotionally, energetically, spiritually. It doesn’t serve them.

I feel what love is.
It’s not excuses. It’s not a defense. It’s not lovely words.

> It protects.
> It shows up.
> It repairs.
> If it doesn’t do that, it’s not love.

I trust what I see.
I trust what I sense.
I trust what I already know.
I don’t need one more sign.
I don’t need to wait and see.
I’m already clear.

I don’t argue with reality.
I don’t soften the truth to keep the peace.
I don’t carry the weight of someone else’s healing.

————- This is the line ————-

I walk with truth.
I stay with myself.
And I don’t move for anyone who won’t meet me there.

I vow to keep moving forward.
I vow to rise even when no one cheers.
… to belong to my breath, God, and my joy… first, always, fully.

I was sent here to shine.
To speak what others won’t.
To carry light into dark places.
To awaken what’s been sleeping.

I’m not here to prove myself.
I’m not here to get applause, approval, or validation.
I’m here to live in full alignment with the Creator’s will… no hiding, no pretending, no compromising.
That’s where my real power comes from.
That’s what I return to, no matter what anyone else does.

From this moment forward,
I recognize only what is real.
I say yes to nothing less than full alignment.

This is the continual return.
To who I’ve always been.
To why I came here.
To what I will not leave this earth without doing.

I remember.
And I walk forward as the woman God entrusted with the fire.

Longing to serve

Jan 10, 2025 | Spiritual Growth

I long to serve with every ounce of my strength…

I yearn to LOVE in a way that is free of self-preference and self-preservation.

…. And that takes physical, emotional and spiritual strength.

It means eating well.
It means working out daily.
It means strong relentless boundaries with toxic people.
It means praying and protecting myself every morning before I pray for others.

… facing the toxic vanity culture we live in and choosing to not participate.

It means standing beside powerful, extraordinary humans and not comparing.

… choosing to train my children so we have a peaceful family life.
… keeping my commitments.
… and doing what I can now, today, this moment.

It means going the extra mile in my own home.
The extra mile taking care of myself…
My family.
My home.
My personal space.
And my partner.

It means shifting from trying to get everyone on my timeline and getting on theirs.
It means looking for opportunities to help.
It means seeing them in their greatness and endlessly reflecting it back to them.

IT MEANS NO COMPLAINING.
No going into the fear.
No giving into the temptation that promises relief… and gives chaos.

It means to get still.
Listen.
And obey.

It means remembering every waking second that my true strength comes from God… and doing my best to align my powerful WILL to God’s as I walk.

It means remembering that LOVE is the teacher, not me.
It’s remembering LOVE is a verb.
It’s remembering that being able to LOVE is an incredible honor and gift that brings deep joy in the end.

And every day I see myself strengthen in this new way just a little.
And a little bit more.
And a little bit more.

It’s a dream come true.

Manifesting a man to provide for me…

Dec 5, 2024 | Abundance mindset

I’m learning to allow myself to have BOTH, the man who provides for me and my own wealth…

So… I always held the frequency that I always make more money. The end… and so I did.

I held the frequency that I make it rapidly. Like makes-no-sense rapidly. And so I did. I went from my first month coaching making $4k to $40k the next month. I never did $10k months.
And I simply kept increasing from there until I had an $82k DAY.

And this all made sense to me in my own little world. lol
I surrounded myself with others doing the same.

UNTIL… one day I found myself in a very painful and uncomfortable place… without recognizing what was happening.

I met Gregg and I had essentially lived the last year off of all the built-up payment plans… and it was now starting to decrease… $60k months… $50k… $40… $30…

And every time I went to go do my magic I just froze.
I didn’t want to.
The burst of endless energy wasn’t there.

And I remembered what my mama had taught me.
God gives you the grace to do what he asks you to do.
When it’s removed HE removed it.

Obviously, I had a major temper tantrum about this… I was so confused. “OK GOD… IF YOU AREN’T GOING TO PROVIDE FOR ME FINANCIALLY THEN WHAT?!”

I mean I was completely pissed!
HE ALWAYS provided for me. ALWAYS.

I’ll never forget Gregg coming alongside me asking me if he could help financially. I was horrified lol. Exactly ZERO part of me was ok with that. It was completely unfamiliar… and felt like a trap. One I wanted nothing to do with.

I don’t remember exactly but I’m sure I gave a very sharp reply at the time… and explained that that’s not how manifestation works and not how I work. LOL (omg this is a bit embarrassing to recount lol)

So 2-3 months later… same thing happening… $20k months… still no YES in my body to go manifest it. To go create it. NOTHING can interfere with manifesting $. NOTHING.

YET something clearly was. I was lost.

….

The second time he asked me I said yes while I bawled. He just held me. This man knew something I did not.

He knew what it was to PROVIDE for a woman.
He knew what it meant to HOLD her in his provisions.
He knew what it was to PROTECT her from her own self-sufficiency.

But I knew nothing of this.
It was so friggin unfamiliar to my entire system that I couldn’t see God was answering my prayers.

I could ONLY SEE the answer if it was something familiar.
If my business produces a shocking amount of money out of nowhere.
If checks came in the mail in the amounts of hundreds of thousands from the craziest stories.
Refunds.
Free things.

A MAN PROVIDING FOR ME?
The only association I had with that was “trapped”… he will use it to gain power over me and manipulate me.

God was healing me and I was putting up the FIGHT OF MY LIFE. lol

…

And ONLY Source could have created such magic for Gregg and I.
Gregg had only known providing without being shown any gratitude for it and being taken advantage of through it.

I had only known someone wanting power over me or using me for my provisions.

And just like that… 1 mile away from each other… God brought us together and we began to heal.
He was asking me to BE PROVIDED for by a man with a pure heart who loves me.

And he was asking Gregg to provide for a woman who would endlessly appreciate his efforts… and would use the provisions to grow and heal rather than use them for superficial advancements.

WOHHHHHHH.
Who would have thought that we COULD BOTH heal from this major change in both of our lives. I mean Gregg was already providing almost 6 figures for his CS and alimony. To take on this responsibility must have felt almost crippling. Yet he said yes to his guidance without pause. AND I REALLY MEAN WITHOUT PAUSE.

It has taken time for him to trust in GOD and not just himself to provide… and he’s still working on the energy of trust VS do… but that’s what MY ALLOWING HIM TO PROVIDE did FOR HIM. It brought him closer to God.

And that’s what me allowing him to provide for me did for me… it deeply and profoundly healed parts of me I never knew were broken.

And this lesson has changed me forever.
GOD’S WILL FIRST. always.

Because my BEST and brightest… most savvy thinking falls so insanely short of God’s brilliance. God’s never-ending LOVE that comes in the exact form needed… RIGHT ON TIME, always.

Deep inside I desired to feel like a valuable woman… who a loving and SAFE… powerful man wanted to take care of.

I would NEVER experience that while fighting to self-provide.
I needed the season of not being able to in order to break my stubbornness.

It always makes perfect sense looking back lol.
So today… I ask myself… what deep longing am I pretending doesn’t exist while I focus on getting the thing I think will make me feel how I want to feel?

I let go of every single thing I think I need and go within.
Who do I feel called to be?
How do I long to FEEL?

And then I say YES to however God wants to create that.
Whewwwww!!!!
I feel utter relief at how much drama I will now avoid HAHAHAHA. And now I get to have BOTH. Ahhhh!

I love you.
m