Relationships

What If

February 7, 2022
Mandy Perry

What If… we adults could get our sh** together enough to love each other in a way where we could stop focusing on who should do and be what… and we could use all that energy to show up for this next generation.

This morning I was at church… (I go to Spiritual and regular churches… I love hearing all the perspectives) and the pastor went off about the difference between being a spiritual coach (in general) and actively being with the youth in their life.

Instead of focusing on why you wear baggy pants, ripped jeans, nose rings yadda yadda… how about asking them to meet for coffee and sharing your life wisdom with them… (and I’d add listening to theirs!)

And I just cried.
I want this world.

I sat there feeling all the emotions of Gregg’s 4 daughters in this new dynamic, watched the grandma love them kids like only a grandma can… felt Bailey’s feelings being mixed in… felt Gregg’s daddy’s heart long to love them all as he pulled on daughter close and held my hand.

Another little one came beside me and snuggled.

And as I felt all the bliss of this love pouring out… I thought about all the children… the societal norm.

Last night some friends were sharing their opinion on how men are men – and women are women – and that’s all there is. Everything else is brokenness needs to be fixed. (regarding sexuality and identity)

Admittedly I was disappointed given my daughter is bi-sexual and this is the thinking that causes pain in the LGBTQ community.

It felt like yet another example of us telling each other WHO WE ARE SUPPOSED TO BE.

You are allowed to believe as you believe.
Your feelings are valid.
Your view is allowed.
You are allowed to be ALL YOU. ALL THE TIME.

AND WHAT IF… we adults could get our sh** together enough to love each other in a way where we could stop focusing on who should do and be what… and we could use all that energy to show up for this next generation.

We could pour our love into them instead of arguing and judging them, and each other.

What a BIG FAT WASTE OF LIFE!!!
I just cried and cried imagining this world where we, adults, put it all aside and show up for them.

The kids.

I choose to be her… all in … UNTIL.

Love over things.
Love over ego.
Love over beliefs.
Love over political differences.
Love over religious differences.

To heal enough to choose our beliefs for ourselves and love others, and leave all the rest alone!!!

What a world to strive for.
My mama’s heart is longing for this world for my babies.

m xx

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