When Something Is Dead… Move Accordingly

November 5, 2021

When you know in your heart that it is dead… it is not aligned… it is not for you…


In business.
In love.
In life.

I learned in the Marines – Adapt & Overcome.
And it has served me well.

We always know, and we also know… if we don’t move according to the truth… we suffer.

And it’s ok if that’s what we choose but we have to tell ourselves the truth about what we are choosing. “I am choosing this, it’s not aligned and I know that. It hurts because it’s not for ME.”

>> That is how I got myself out of abusive relationships, FINALLY. I simply kept telling myself the truth.

“This feels bad. I don’t feel good being with him. I feel confused and hurt a lot. This is abuse. This is causing damage. I want something that feels safe. This is not how I want to be treated.”

>> It is how I have such an extraordinarily aligned business… I just kept telling myself the truth.

“I want my days to feel like this. I want money to flow like this. I want people who believe like this. I don’t want to do that.”

>> It is how I lost the weight…
“I want to be 79 climbing the mountain in Bali with clients. I want to feel free and light in my body.”


Getting caught up in why something is the way it is.
Trying to figure out how to fix things.
Trying to do what others say I should do… or what they do.
Acting out of fear or lack…


What have you been lying to yourself about?
What do you KNOW is not right for you?
What have you been choosing out of the fear that it will never be what you really desire it to be?

Who is it time to let go of?
What do you actually want your purpose work to be?
How do you desire to feel?


Do we choose the pain of aligned transformation or the pain of repeating the same mistakes?
Either way, you will be ok.
We’re always ok….. but we must let go of good for great if we want great.


m xx

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What?! You mean… compassion for others includes the woman lying and hurting the man I love? It includes compassion for her?
That’s easy for you to say.
You don’t have a wife or kids that you love like I love them.
What’s that you say?
That’s how you love EVERYTHING? All humans? All animals and sentient beings?

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This is what drove me so hard to break out of all of the abuse I was experiencing, go to school for 10 years while working and being a single mother with almost zero child support, start my business and make my first Mill in 2 years… THAT is a lot of drive, and it ALL came from MY WANTING TO END OTHERS SUFFERING.

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I understand the basis of this.

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And I chuckled.
I’m definitely not either…
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