Why “Helping People” Triggered Me

March 25, 2022

The most extraordinary thing has happened & it finally all makes sense…

For so long I heard people talk about “helping” people… and what was my mission on earth.

I always thought it was stupid. My deepest core belief is that people are powerful and capable… they definitely don’t need my “help”… they need to just see themselves in me and others and choose it for themselves.

I felt confused for a long time… like, am I selfish because I don’t care enough about others to write books I’ve been asked to write, speak on stages I’ve been asked to speak on …

Do I just not care enough about others?
Again and again, people would say “It’s your DUTY to bring your gifts to the world and help everyone.” And every time they said this crap I’d be annoyed and triggered.


And it finally all makes sense to me.

No one needs my help.
That’s real.
Everyone is wildly powerful.
Everyone already has all they need to create their desired life.
For some, I feel so good to have in their world!
They pin me to the top of their feed, add me to favorites, buy my courses and hire me to mentor them…

It’s simply their desire.
They are brave enough to invest and be in the energy they desire to calibrate to. I do the same.

What was missing wasn’t about helping others- what was missing wasn’t me not caring, I care so deeply. So so deeply.

What was missing was my belief that the world I desire was actually POSSIBLE.

The world where you are truly WILDLY FREE.
So free it’s curious to all the world.
There’s just something so different it’s hard to pinpoint.

True freedom in your:
Message to the world

All of it.
Every damn piece is so authentically you that you feel freedom rarely seen in the world.

And the moment I believed this was actually possible for the world, everything dormant in me came alive.

It was the belief in the world I desire to participate in co-creating with you that was missing.

What if no one needs your help?
No one is broken.
There’s nothing to “fix”.

What if everyone around you is at the very least- as powerful as you are?

What if your only mission is to be clear about what your vision is and to BELIEVE IT WITH EVERY FIBER IN YOUR BEING… And let the dormant fire inside of you rage?


m xx

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That’s easy for you to say.
You don’t have a wife or kids that you love like I love them.
What’s that you say?
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And I chuckled.
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