Outgrowing the habit of rescuing others

We…
are not meant…
to carry others…
through storms…
they’re creating…
and refusing to leave.

It sounds so simple when we sit in peace and acknowledge that…
But the pain of seeing those we love suffer can be intense.

And when we begin to heal from the rescuing habit… we go into WITHDRAWAL from false power.
From false control.
From over-efforting.
From trying to get ahead of the pain.
From reading other’s stress before they even speak it.
From the restlessness that lingers with injustice…

We go into literal withdrawal from the illusion that we ever had the power to control it all.

And we begin to recognize…
We aren’t tired because we’re failing to rescue them…
We’re tired because the identity we have built to survive is burning away.

It is dying.
And our work is to let it.

Let the pain burn off every illusion.
Let the ache break you open to allow the light in to reveal deeper and greater truths… as you become who you were always going to be.

Because the pain isn’t because of what’s happening… the pain is a response to a lie we have bought into. The pain is a response to a belief that is not in alignment with our highest self. (We KNEW that… we just forgot… again lol)

Our work is to REMEMBER:
When the rescuing stops,
when the performing ends,
when you’re no longer holding it all…
what’s still here?

What remains when:
You are not interpreting their pain.
You are not trying to be a certain frequency.
You are not being spiritual or soft or strong or wise.
What’s here when you are not trying to be anything at all?

Not the healer.
Not the partner.
Not the awakened one.
Not the one who sees clearly.

Just this.
Just the breath.
Just the you, being.
Just true reality.

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We don’t ask God to do things

God is already perfect.
I realized that asking Him to change things… is kind of ridiculous.
The Creator of all… doesn’t need my instruction.
He doesn’t need my plan.
He doesn’t need me to “remind” Him of what’s right.
He is perfection.
He is already moving everything toward truth… not in my timing, but in alignment.

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Everyone around you pretends they are fine

Being the one who CHOOSES TO HEAL, when everyone around you pretends they are fine…
When we stop performing, people get uncomfortable.
When we stop absorbing everyone else’s chaos, they get upset.
When we stop fixing, explaining, shrinking, or keeping the peace, we get called dramatic, lazy, or too much. We are labeled “the problem”.
When we tell the truth about the effect things are having on us…
When we NAME abuse, and crappy behavior… people will use it to make you look like the problem.

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The Upgrade Hurts

I feel the thousands of humans all over the world are sitting in bedrooms, saunas, coffee shops, and back porches… 
with tears in their eyes and pressure in their chest…
because something they used to survive with no longer fits the soul they’ve become.
They’re waking up in the subtle, aching way … the … I can’t do it that way anymore…. awakening.

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I don’t second-guess myself

I don’t negotiate with what I already know…
I don’t do confusion.
If it’s not clear, it’s a no.
If it doesn’t feel safe, I step back.
If I have to fight to be understood, I’m in the wrong place.
I don’t explain my truth to people who keep showing they can’t hold it.
I don’t wait around for potential.
I don’t accept crumbs from anyone… emotionally, energetically, spiritually. It doesn’t serve them.

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The COURAGE to hold beauty…

I got a very bad hair coloring today. She accidentally covered up my beautiful white streaks and made my hair a grayish muted flat color. It will take a month to correct.
And I cried. It is so very flat and ugly… and I couldn’t help but notice the timing of it…
I’ve been slowly allowing my sparkle to come back… daring to venture into my own beauty again after having to face the kind of cruelty some people are capable of…

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