Outgrowing the habit of rescuing others

We…
are not meant…
to carry others…
through storms…
they’re creating…
and refusing to leave.

It sounds so simple when we sit in peace and acknowledge that…
But the pain of seeing those we love suffer can be intense.

And when we begin to heal from the rescuing habit… we go into WITHDRAWAL from false power.
From false control.
From over-efforting.
From trying to get ahead of the pain.
From reading other’s stress before they even speak it.
From the restlessness that lingers with injustice…

We go into literal withdrawal from the illusion that we ever had the power to control it all.

And we begin to recognize…
We aren’t tired because we’re failing to rescue them…
We’re tired because the identity we have built to survive is burning away.

It is dying.
And our work is to let it.

Let the pain burn off every illusion.
Let the ache break you open to allow the light in to reveal deeper and greater truths… as you become who you were always going to be.

Because the pain isn’t because of what’s happening… the pain is a response to a lie we have bought into. The pain is a response to a belief that is not in alignment with our highest self. (We KNEW that… we just forgot… again lol)

Our work is to REMEMBER:
When the rescuing stops,
when the performing ends,
when you’re no longer holding it all…
what’s still here?

What remains when:
You are not interpreting their pain.
You are not trying to be a certain frequency.
You are not being spiritual or soft or strong or wise.
What’s here when you are not trying to be anything at all?

Not the healer.
Not the partner.
Not the awakened one.
Not the one who sees clearly.

Just this.
Just the breath.
Just the you, being.
Just true reality.

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She was trying to cope with the pain she saw all around her

She never over-functioned to be liked.
She never stepped in to be chosen.
She never carried weight to avoid being left.

Her body was trained for something far sharper:
Prevent disaster.
Prevent collapse.
Prevent irreversible harm.
Prevent the kind of pain that destroys lives beyond repair.

Her over-functioning was not people-pleasing.
It was protection.
It was vigilance.

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When wildly successful mentors don’t resonate…

She kept hearing the same thing from everyone…
This teacher, that teacher changed my life.
This program made me millions.
This work is everything.

But every time she listened, something in her body said no.
The teachings felt flat.
Monotonous.
Predictable.
Dry in a way that made her feel annoyed, sometimes even angry, like she was wasting her time…

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Why manifestation feels Self-Absorbed… (and how to immediately shift it)

There is something off about the energetics of manifestation in our current culture… When we slow down enough… we sense a nudge that there is something self-absorbed about hyper focusing on how we feel… on our VIBE. There is something subtly narcissistic about it… something that gives us pause… and we just call it “money limitations”.
It sounds like:
I AM
I AM THE ONE.
…the one who manifests, who vibes, who attracts…
I AM the frequency… my desires are forefront…

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It’s all ridiculous

It’s honestly hilarious how seriously we take our own evolution.
Soooo you took 4 years to learn a single lesson that knocked your business sideways?
So… you still trip over the same pattern?
You still procrastinate on the exact thing you swore you’d do last season?
… and the Infinite is not even blinking.
This entire lifetime is one tiny blip.
A spark.
A micro-moment in a long, long journey of becoming.

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