Relationships Blogs

We accept when someone chooses not to engage in a healthy dynamic and allow them to carry on with their journey.
We don’t chase, beg, or explain ourselves into exhaustion.
We don’t trade truth for approval.
We don’t revert to versions of ourselves we’ve outgrown just to avoid conflict.
We don’t make ourselves smaller, softer, quieter just so someone else doesn’t have to face themselves.

We..
are not meant…
to carry others…
through storms…
they’re creating…
and refusing to leave.
It sounds so simple when we sit in peace and acknowledge that…
But the pain of seeing those we love suffer can be intense.

Being the one who CHOOSES TO HEAL, when everyone around you pretends they are fine…
When we stop performing, people get uncomfortable.
When we stop absorbing everyone else’s chaos, they get upset.
When we stop fixing, explaining, shrinking, or keeping the peace, we get called dramatic, lazy, or too much. We are labeled “the problem”.
When we tell the truth about the effect things are having on us…
When we NAME abuse, and crappy behavior… people will use it to make you look like the problem.